Oh, I don’t know… because I’m nice, easy to talk to, have a good sense of humour… but mainly because I’m good at my job.
Lots of people say “I don’t know how you can do your job, it must be so hard.” I don’t find it hard listening to clients… I find people fascinating and I’m genuinely interested in what you have to say and getting to know you.
I’ve had a lot of therapy myself. I’ve sat with a CBT therapist who didn’t seem to understand how I was feeling, a humanist who just repeated what I’d said, a psychodynamic therapist who never smiled… even a Jungian psychoanalyst who was obsessed with me seeing my dad in his underpants when I was 5!
Therapy doesn’t need to be weird. At best it is a deep and intimate conversation where you can ramble or rant, cry or laugh. It’s a very real human connection and when it works well, it feels great… for both of us.
It really depends on what you are trying to achieve, and how you feel on the day. Sometimes we’ll just talk (I’ll ask some questions, or remind you about something you said before, or give a different point of view for you to consider). Or we could work on an exercise like a life-line, or a ‘better-worse’ scale, or a self-esteem drawing.
There is no fixed agenda. We may have agreed areas you want to work on and goals to achieve but life happens so we take each and every session as it comes.
If you want to find out a bit more about a first session you can read about a First_Meeting here.
…but if you are reading this you have thought about it, maybe for quite some time. I know it can be scary booking your first session so I offer a warm welcome and try to make things as normal and easygoing as possible.
There is no pressure to make a decision at the end of our first session but a lot of clients decide to book more… it will be up to you to decide.
There is strong evidence that working with a professional can be a very effective way of improving your life; either by reducing negative influences that are upsetting and confusing you, or by getting focused support to make concrete changes.
My own experience in over 15 years has shown me how much it can help people change, and you can read how my clients felt about the process on the reviews page. If it isn’t right for you, or you don’t think sessions are helping, you are always in control of continuing or stopping.
I don’t have a magic wand, or a guaranteed solution, or the exact advice you need to make everything better. In fact, if that existed, I believe it is YOU who would have it and my job is to help you find it.
My job is to listen to what you are saying (and what you’re not), and then to encourage and challenge you to take positive risks and do things differently. I provide dedicated 1:1 support so you don’t need to feel on your own or out on a limb when you are making big decisions and changes
There aren’t many quick fixes in life and things can take time, effort and commitment but I will be there to help keep you motivated and focused as we start to move things forward.
I work in Moseley, South Birmingham at The BAC Centre, 26 Wake Green Road, Moseley, Birmingham, B13 9PA. The centre is situated just outside of Moseley Village, easily accessible to central and south Birmingham, Solihull and Redditch.
You will always get a friendly welcome and there is reception area to wait for your appointment.
I work Monday to Wednesday 10am – 8pm and Friday mornings. I like my work-life balance so I don’t work at the weekends.
Depending on which therapy you choose, we would discuss when to book our sessions and if we are meeting in person, or via Skype or phone. For Counselling, In the Workplace & For Women therapies I recommend starting out with weekly sessions. Coaching can be spaced out to every 2-3 weeks.
Sessions last 50 minutes (1 hour coaching) but it’s a good idea to allow yourself some free time after the session so you have a chance to process what we’ve discussed and relax a bit.
Remember you are making an investment in yourself and your future when you consider these prices:
Counselling sessions last 50 minutes and cost £55 during the day and £60 after 6pm. It is the same for In the Workplace and For Women sessions.
Coaching sessions last 1 hour and cost £100 during the day and £110 after 6pm.
Most people find they got a lot out of the first session so it is charged at the full rate. It is a chance for us to meet me and decide if we can work together before you commit to booking further sessions.
Everything we discuss stays between us. I do not contact your employer, GP, family or anyone else about the things you tell me. There are certain times I cannot keep information to myself but they are extreme.